Why have bulldog blood

 

by Burt Dubin on July 12, 2010

Why Have Bulldog Blood:


O.K.  You want to know.  You want to know how I did it.  Maybe even how I do it now.  So—in 2 minutes you will know.

My #1 characteristic as a lifelong achiever can be said in 2 words:  Bulldog Blood. That’s bulldog blood. Do you know the nature of a bulldog?

Imagine this:  A bulldog comes after you.  Once that dog gets its iron-jaw teeth into your leg, it locks on. And does not let go.

You can shoot the dog.  You can end its life.  Still that iron jaw, those teeth do not release their hold.  That’s it.  That’s how I transformed my life experience from abuse, emptiness and lack to worldly success.  With bulldog blood.

When I was 4, my father, 29, started beating me.  Every evening.  Bare ass beatings.  That’s right.  He pulled down my short pants and beat my bare ass.

With a sturdy cat-o-nine-tails he had me watch him make from clothesline.  He caused me to sit there in the basement of our red brick row house at 6050 Webster Street in West Philadelphia and watch him make a thick knot in the end of every tail.

That first evening I listened to my angels.  They told me I was to defy him.  I did.  Though he hit me hard, determined to break my spirit, I defied him.  I did not make a sound.  Not one peep.

I resolved to not let his cruelty touch me.   He was bigger and stronger than I.  He could beat my body.  He could not reach me.   Not the real me.  Not my essence.  Not my inner self. (I didn’t know these words then and I sure sensed the concept.)

As he manufactured the first cat-o-nine-tails he peered into my eyes for my reaction.  He saw a stony stare.

After 2 or 3 years of these nightly beatings, he wore out his instrument.  So he made another.  This time he made me watch him double-knotting each knot on the end of every tail.

There were 4 years, 48 months, 208 weeks, about 1500 consecutive evenings of these stinging scenes.  He never heard a sound from me.  Not once.

I gritted my teeth and reflected.  Yes, at 4, I reflected on the roots and the nature of his bestial behavior.  When I was 8, he simply stoppedI had prevailed. He did not break my spirit.  I don’t think he liked the way I stared him down.

Two outcomes eventuated:  I became—and am—incorrigible. Resolutely so.  And gentle.  I developed huge empathy for the human condition.

The iron resolve I manifested at 4 made the difference for me.

I started on what became a lifelong pattern of creating the conditions and circumstances I desired at the time.

Years later I created my blog . . . my Bare Ass blog!

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Bare-ass shortcuts to speaking business success

 

by Burt Dubin on June 10, 2010

Bare-ass shortcuts to speaking business success

How do top-shelf speakers do it?   How do they get there?  How do you do it . . . and how do you do it faster?

1. Know your subject. Know it inside out, upside down, backward and forward.  Study your specialty tirelessly, endlessly, relentlessly.  Make it your bare-ass intimate other.  Love it with a passion that knows no bounds, has no limits.

Devote yourself to your topic resolutely . . . and make yourself its master. Dedicate your time, your energy, your resources without limit and without reserve to your chosen discipline.  Yes, have a love affair with your theme.

When I was 17 I lied about my age to get a job at RCA.  I was the sole support of my mom and my two kid sisters.

I quit high school to go to work because there was no one else to support them. I quickly worked my way into the electronic test group.

I studied my task just as I recommend you to do.  My love affair with the CRT (cathode ray tube) and the alignment process yielded me new, original, previously undiscovered ways to shorten a procedure from 45 minutes to 15 minutes.

Standing firm against non-believers, I prevailed.  I got the process I conceived turned into the new standard, thus tripling production in my department.  I knew my subject. Know your subject, speaker!

2. Know your market. Know exactly what people, companies, associations, groups, industries, are most likely to appreciate about you and your mastership . . . and to reward you handsomely for your insights, your views, and your bare-ass, no-holds-barred recommendations.

Know their demographics.  Know their psychographics. Then stay on top of events that matter to those in your market.  Be a restless, hungry, greedy seeker of every crumb of data, knowledge, and wisdom impacting those at every level in your market.  From the shareholders, to the CEO, to the Board, to every level of senior management, every specialty, every group and sub-group.  Leave no stone unturned.

Years ago, way back before I dreamed of being a speaker, I represented the Pepsodent Division of Lever brothers to retailers in the greater Los Angeles area.  I found retailers who didn’t know that they longed to carry my line, to display it, feature it, promote it.  I found dozens and dozens of stores, targeted them . . . and won them over.

Not just as customer, far more than that.  I made them advocates, believers, disciples.  Amen, Brother!  My passionate devotion to the cause of that brand carried me to recognition, awards, and much more.  I knew my market.  Know your market, expert-who-speaks!

3. Know yourself. Know your values.  And know your value.  Do not settle for less. Know what you stand for.  Know what matters, truly matters bone deep, to you.

Know where you’ve been.  Know where you’re going.  Know why you do what you do.

Hey, fellow speaker, I’ve lived this stuff; I don’t just teach it.  Years ago, when Pepsodent didn’t reward me adequately, I quit.  (When a market doesn’t reward you adequately for your contributions as an expert who speaks, find another market that does recognize and reward you for your bare-ass contribution to their desired outcomes.)

When I moved on I joined Cole Steel Equipment Company . . . and in 5 years tripled their sales in my marketing area.  This went on and on until I started awakening others to their potential . . . and how to actualize their potential.

But . . . you don’t want my life story.  You’re more interested in your life story.  And how you can write future chapters you’ll be proud to show your kids.  (Know yourself, fellow expert-who-speaks.)

Actions to take:

1. Review this article.

2. Grab these principles by the balls.

3. Make them your own.

4. Engage them relentlessly.

5. Make your own rules.

6. Be the iconoclast you always knew you were.

7. And soar into your personal orbit.

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THE LEFTOVERS BECKONED -
THE DARK MEAT AND WHITE,
BUT I FOUGHT THE TEMPTATION
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TOSSING AND TURNING WITH ANTICIPATION,
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The clock of life is wound but once and no one has the power
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Place no faith in tomorrow for the hands may then be still
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