Do You Know These Secrets to Becoming Wise


by Burt Dubin on April 10, 2013

Do You Know These Secrets to Becoming Wise

A great public speaker is one who has lived life, made mistakes, learned lessons. And, hopefully, grown wise. So we who speak are to become great. We are to evolve. We are to become public speakers who are wise.

What follows, dear reader, is how I did it . . .

What about you? Where are you on this rocky and magnificent path to growing wise. To making the difference you yearn to make? Let’s look at this fascinating business and at your role as an expert who speaks. Here’s how I did it . . .

Secret 1: Know What You Don’t Know

I discovered that the speaking business is not so simple. You know this already. You are to master challenges and complexities. To touch lives. To affect the affairs of organizations and the lives of people. In short, to make a difference. A positive difference.

You do this through your attitudes and actions. Through your words and stories. And through your wisdom. You engage your understanding of the human condition. And of how organizations function.

So how do you get so smart? What do you do to grow wise? I don’t know. Yet I can tell you a bit about my experience and how I harvested such wisdom as I may have.

I plunged into the world of work at 17. I’m a high school dropout. My college was the School of Hard Knocks. I watched. I listened. I reflected. And made a freight car load of mistakes.

Secret 2: Seek the Lesson in the Experience

And I asked, every time, what is the lesson in this? How am I to let this goof-up serve me? How am I to conduct myself to avoid such mistakes in the future? Simple, huh?

Secret 3: It’s OK to Make Mistakes

This is the simple secret I want you to own. Make your mistakes. A mistake, after all, is only a missed take. Your life is your movie. You’re the producer, the director and the star. So you simply shoot the scene again.

Secret 4: Make Yourself a Specialist

Examine your options. Look at your choices. Consider your talents. Then pick a speaking specialty. Select a personal specialty. Study that specialty. Get to know all there is to know about it. This is what I did. You can do it too. Anyone can do it. Please don’t be a generalist. Engage your personal past. Hook into your history. Use what you know.

Ask yourself what kind of people you’d like to invite home to dinner. There’s your natural audience.

Secret 5: Exploit Your Passion

Are you a master in some field, a field you just love? Now you know what you can speak about with passion and authenticity.

If you are not already a master in some field you love, select a specialty in which you resolve to make yourself a master. Research this specialty. Do this with iron resolve. Look under every rock. Read obscure journals.   Then . . .

Secret 6: Speak Everywhere You Can

Start to speak about your specialty for whoever will listen. Most of us started with service clubs. They hunger for free speakers. They eat them up. 52 a year.

Secret 7: Reveal Your Natural Self, Flaws, Warts and All

As for platform skills, just be yourself. Tell yourself you’re speaking with old friends. You’ve been away. Doing life. You’ve returned to share your adventures. See? It’s not all that hard to get practice before groups. Join Toastmasters. Take the Dale Carnegie Course.


It’s the old How do I get to Carnegie Hall story. You practice, practice and practice. In due course you run out of mistakes. you wake up wise. That’s all there is to it.

Burt Dubin works with people who want to  be speakers                                                       and with speakers who want to be masters.

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{ 1 comment }

Heather Randall June 8, 2013 at 8:08 am

There are as many ways to fight complacency as there are instances of it. Only you will know exactly how to motivate yourself. Being aware of the dangers associated with complacency will help ensure that you remain viable for the long haul.

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